There’s no real incentive to lie, unless I want to make myself a bit taller than 5’9’’.But the guy who has been separated for 18 months and his wife won’t sign the divorce papers, the guy who lost his prestigious job and hasn’t quite landed on his feet yet, the guy who was never formally educated but is wise from life experience – he knows that you will NOT give him a chance if he tells the truth.Because the truth is: you WON’T go out with the 5’6” guy, the guy in the wheelchair, or the guy who makes less than you. The evidence to support my assertion is overwhelming. She was very physically fit, very active; and the older men she had dated in the past were very “middle aged” to her. She wasn’t really looking to get married, she already had kids, and found the men in the 35-42 age group were her ideal dating partners.
One of the biggest and most common problem that arises is lying.
I’m OK with people withholding, but I see things on men’s profiles that turn out to be downright misleading. I wouldn’t get too upset if a guy’s profile picture is five years old, or if he’s really 5’8″ and not 5’10.” What I keep finding out, though, are things like “some college” means “no education past high school,” or that “work in research” means “factory worker at a plant whose clients are R&D companies,” and a white-collar technical profession listed on a profile really means “been out of work for some years.”My problem with misleading pieces of information like these is that I don’t know what else to expect. After all, here I am, meeting with total strangers from the Internet, and, like it or not, I have my personal safety to worry about.
I did a search on your blog before I sat down to write this letter, and found a blog article where you say that it is okay to stretch the truth a little, just to get your foot in the door. Like speeding and getting “creative” on your taxes, lying online is something that “we” do as a form of semi-accepted rule-breaking. Maybe the civics courses in the 70’s were less effective because of Watergate.
And I have to say that, from what I’m observed, he’s right. We dated about a year, and had a great time together. However, this woman is looking to get married and hopefully have a child.
Is he wasting his time (and yours) by misrepresenting himself? Would he have the chance to meet you if he didn’t misrepresent himself?
I’ve had a decent number of people contact me, and we mostly click fairly well when we meet in person.