They will be offended if you pass them off as ‘simple’ or ‘average’. INFJs are typically better in writing than in verbal communication.
Getting to know an INFJ takes work, so be prepared for that. If you want to know an INFJ’s true feelings, ask them to write out what they think and feel.
They’ve been described as having ‘layers’ which only a select few people are privy to, the closer the layer to their heart, the fewer people are granted access.
Do not expect to find yourself in the ‘top tier’ overnight.
To help with things, I’ve compiled a list of points which I think would be of great use to anyone considering dating someone who identifies as an INFJ.
For most INFJs, omitting or distorting information is equivalent to lying, and at the very least will rouse their suspicion.
It often takes months or years to access the deepest recesses. While an INFJ is relatively adept at conflict resolution, they do not appreciate the unneeded creation of conflict. The ‘N’ combined with the ‘J’ in INFJ means that they are future oriented.
Most of them will become too attached for it to be possible.To be a female INTP is even rarer; only 2% are women. We dislike small talk, so we will disengage and drift off into space with maybe a nod and an occasional “yes” or “okay”, to let you think we are paying attention.If you find one, cherish her, because we are inconceivably unique and out of the ordinary. We have an underlying fear of commitment because we fear being controlled, so it may take some time for us to commit when dating us.If your intentions aren’t serious then you should probably steer clear of an INFJ unless it’s very obvious beforehand that they aren’t interested in a serious relationship. If an INFJ wants to stick by you, it means they really like you. INFJs consciously choose the people that are close to them.They would rather have a few very close friendships as opposed to numerous superficial ones. They typically hold themselves back and consider that behaviour to be part of their nature.Here are some pros and cons of dating us INTP females. Therefore, we are not needy and do not like to restrain, or otherwise control you. We accept you, flaws and all, because once we’re in a relationship, we’re very loyal and committed. If you are the game playing type, an INTP female is not for you. This next one could go either way, although for us INTP females, we would consider this a pro.