One year later back in the States (we live in the same city) I was unknowingly talking to him over the phone just messing around (his cousin was dating my friend and his cousin gave the phone to him).
He said he remembered me, told me to come over, so I did.
You probably are successful at getting him to call you back by making him feel guilty, but in the long run that hurts your chances for any sort of good relationship. even if you can coerce the guy into doing what you want him to in the short-term, he will see it for what it is and he will either go “cold” or start to resent you for the manipulation. Then you started to like him and maybe you started to get a little needy and that’s where your “aggressiveness” came from.
So he starts picking up on the neediness and starts pulling away and then you start “bitching him out” and forcing him into feeling guilty and apologizing.
So when you write that he was “nice all the time”, that you “hit him upside the head”, that you’re “aggressive towards him”, and that he apologizes when you “bitch him out”…
it paints a picture of the situation as you want me to see it.
For a woman to become a man, the breasts, uterus and ovaries are removed and male genitalia is created.
”From the way you tell it, it sounds to me like you’ve got an aggressive personality.
I’m not saying that in a bad way – you sound like a fun girl.
On the other hand, the way you describe the guy sounds like he’s kind of softer or more passive than you.
One of the ways I size up a situation is by looking at the details that you choose to tell me.
But at the root of it, it’s not that he has anything to apologize for; the root cause is your own neediness and desire for him to like you back, now that you are ready to like him. With that said, I don’t think this is something that can’t be easily repaired and improved.